By Purnima Lamchhane, Cine Blitz, March 2003

The panting women haven't had it better. The nation's most phenomenal heartthrob, John Abraham.... in the flesh... in raunchy, bare-all, tell-all mode...

The layers are being stripped... Take a deep breath and prepare yourself for a voyeuristic peek into the mind, body and soul of the Awesome Abraham.

DRIVING ME CRAZY...

Everything my woman does - the way she looks, the way she turns her head, the way she smiles, the way she cries - drives me crazy. Everything looks so beautiful because my life revolves around my relationship and my woman. Let's admit it, physical attraction is the stepping stone in a relationship; everything else follows. Of course it matters greatly how much my woman can keep me on the edge of my seat and on my toes! I have never been really driven insane by any woman, but yes, my life has always centred around my relationships. I live my life through them. I nurture my relationship like my baby and I find anything my woman does, amazing and beautiful.

ALL I NEED...

A woman does not need to be physically well endowed or the model-anorexic kind to attract me. More than a fantastic figure or a beautiful face, she should have consistency across all parameters and project herself rightly and honestly. Then the combination just may hit the chord of attractiveness!

LUSTFUL TALES...

The problem with me, is the moment I experience lust, it quickly turns into love. Lust has always led to my falling in love. Everything that begins on a physical note, ends very emotionally for me. So I guess lust is a good beginning!

The last time I went bonkers over a woman, she wasn't even aware of just how beautiful she was. Men would happily give their right arm for her but she herself wasn't aware of her own effect on them. Don't know if it was love or lust but I chased her all the way to Goa. Riding my Bullet, bare-chested, with a bandana around my head, I cruised the streets of Goa, searching for her, along with a friend of mine. I finally found her, you know. That was one time lust definitely led to love. What started out as an adventure led to something even more adventurous!

TURN IT ON!

When you're really turned on by a woman, you forget just what it is about her that turns you off. Womankind is a religion by itself and nothing about women puts me off. If you allow a woman to let off steam, you won't have her behaving in an undesirable manner. The same goes for the men. Nobody is really bad. For me there are just two religions - man and woman. Everything starts and ends with that.

LOVE HURTS...

Love has never been a constant or consistent emotion. My concept of love has changed with my relationships with my women at some point. Love has always meant change for me; it assumes different meanings. Maybe I was crazily in love with a woman in the past, maybe I am more maturely in love with a woman today. I am a very idealistic person. At the same time my feet are firmly on terra firma; I know I have to be realistic too. Love can make you happy but most of the time it makes you very sad. This is why you 'fall' in love and not 'rise' in love!

HOLDING ON...

I hold on my relationship on dear life. If you were dangling between two mountain peaks, holding on to a thin connecting wire, you keep holding on, right? In a relationship too you cling on despite knowing it will probably end. Nobody likes facing up to the inevitable - it's human nature. You just keep fighting to keep your relationship afloat, because it's what keeps you afloat.

SEXUAL CRAVINGS...

Sex is a basic physiological need like hunger and thirst. It's a very important prerequisite and an important parameter for one`s growth. Let's face it: if you don`t have good sex, your relationship is doomed. In a relationship, the emotional and the sexual quotient are equally important. If I was insanely in love with a woman who believed in sex only after marriage, I wouldn`t convince her to marry me but to have sex with me first (laughs)!

VITAL STATS!

I'm a bit of both - a boob man and a butt man. This doesn't mean my woman should have a big butt or huge boobs. When you're in love everything about your woman looks so beautiful, you become a butt, boob, hair and even feet man! Of course, I love a woman with hamstrings, a woman who fills her jeans well. Honestly speaking, I have never really ended up with a woman who has ideal physical proportions. It's more important to me that she has ideal mental proportions!

RRR...ROMANCE!

I am very romantic. I love giving my woman surprises, be it reaching a venue 15 minutes earlier and walking in from the back to surprise her. Or landing up in another city or country to pay her a surprise visit with flowers. Or even professing my love for her in front of 20,000 people! When I'm in a relationship everything revolves around my woman. Even if I'd like to have a roving eye at a party, my eyes would only roam all over the circumference of my woman.

WHAT WOMEN WANT!

You've heard about men being from Mars and women being from Venus, right? Never try figuring out a woman or what she wants from you. Just give honestly without expecting, simply because you believe in giving. Over the years I have learnt to figure out women to a certain extent but I leave it at the subconscious level. If a woman says 'You don't understand me', I wouldn't argue. I'd simply leave it at that. It would be a surprise for her if I gave her something she really wanted. If you want to safeguard your ego just accept the fact that you may indeed not understand a thing! Life will be simpler and easier.

FIRST LOVE?

The general belief is that you never forget your first love but in my case, my first love is the woman I am with. When I fall in love, every time feels like the first time. Don't expect the woman to forget her past because it would probably weigh on the man's mind even more! Forget the past and let her remember hers as a beautiful memory.

MACHO MEN CRY TOO...

I cry all the time. I have cried through my first movie too. Crying does not make you less of a man. It's an emotion like any other. If you are in a relationship you are bound to cry several times. So why deny it? You may be happy in a relationship but when you are hurt, you are hurt!

DITCHED!

When a man gets dumped his ego takes the brunt initially. If your woman does not consider you the most desirable man, it's bound to hurt. Yet you have to accept the fact that there are many good men around. This will make the hurt less. What's more, if your woman finds someone else better, hotter, sexier, probably there are other women who find you hotter and sexier! That's the logic I live by.

MEN BITCH!

Men bitch as much, if not more, than women do. Times have changed. Earlier you would see men bashing their guts out or settling their scores in the open while women were meeker. In these days of equality, all sins and virtues are equal - bitching included.

ONE-NIGHT STANDS...

Men have more one-night stands than women do. If I am in a relationship I am confident that I don't need to have a one-night stand. I am always very happy with the woman I am with. I am proud to hold my woman's hand and walk around. I guess it all depends on your level of commitment to the woman and the depth of your love and trust in her. If you have all that, you don't need to look elsewhere for anything. It's all there in her!

DO MEN GIVE LOVE TO GET SEX?

It's also said that women give sex to get love, but this saying does not hold true anymore. Women have sex to have sex and men fall in love because they fall in love. Sex develops in most relationships today. There is no issue of giving love to get sex, or of giving sex to get love. People are clear in their heads.If it's just great sex, they know the score. If it is love you know it instantly and it stands on a totally different level.

ISSUE OVER A TISSUE...

Virginity does not matter to me either way. It matters to some men simply because the male ego hates to be compared with a woman's past. If you are not confident, secure and happy with yourself, the past is bound to catch up with you and haunt you. There is nothing your woman or man can do to help you.

TO CHEAT OR NOT TO CHEAT...

If my woman cheated on me, my reaction would depend upon how much I wanted to make my relationship work. Maybe I would refuse to believe she did it. Or maybe I'd try to rationalise her reasons for straying. Maybe I'd just hold on desperately, or I'd just snap out of it. It all depends on your mental make-up at that point of time. Honestly, this conversation has me shaking. The thought itself scares me.

A WOMAN'S HOT SPOT?

A woman's G-spot is in her mind. I'm sure she'd love your touch anywhere as long as you stimulate her mind.

A MAN'S HOT ZONES...

...are all over, from head to toe. My erogenous part is always at the edge (guffaws meaningfully)!

PLAYING KNIGHT...

I've been in situations where I have tried to protect women from being manhandled - it comes to me as instinctively as brushing my teeth. Misbehaving males really get my blood boiling. Once when I stepped in and tried to protect a woman from an abusive man, she walked away without saying a word. If she had opened her mouth against the man, it would have made a difference. But I cannot sit still and watch a woman being abused.

MY GREATEST PASSION!

Bikes! My need for speed is my greatest passion. It's been an obsession ever since I was in Std. VI. Around six months ago I owned the fastest bike on the road - Kawasaki Ninja-1100CC. I need to speed when I'm sad and also when I'm happy. I believe that if you are not living on the edge you are taking up too much space!

FEAR FACTOR...

I am afraid of losing my love.

HIDDEN DESIRES?

There aren't any left. If I have a hidden desire I go after it and fulfil it. If your desires stay hidden, wet dreams are the only solution (laughs)!

WICKED FANTASY...

Since I am so crazy about bikes and equally crazy about women, my biggest fantasy is riding my bike with my woman in front...and we are going wild. That would be my ultimate riding fantasy!

MY IDEAL WOMAN?

There is nothing like an ´ideal woman´. A woman becomes ideal when you fall in love with her even if she is the most imperfect person in the eyes of the world!

HER REPUTATION...

My woman's reputation does not matter to me at all. I have dated women of various reputations. In fact, I think my woman has to be worried about my reputation!

That then, is John for you - droolsome, brazen and simply delightful!